What plays out when two avoidant types come together and what are the key takeaways to keep in mind if you are part of this dynamic little club?
I met R. in the best way. Myself, sitting 3 or so seats away from him at the local small town watering hole’s bar wood. Very similar to a Cheers episode type of vibe. R., my back to him, quipped a comment succinct enough for me to raise my head and participate. I rarely bothered normally, the need to work remotely from a bar was driven intrinsically by my need to abandon the home workspace that housed all of my perceived failures and not for making friends.
R’s quip was intelligent. Mindful. And enigmatic. All of which this small town was very much suffering from a lack of. He made me actually feel the need to turn my head to deliver my response. Usually my retorts were communicated through my back and my open laptop’s screen. R was intriguing. His personal presentation matched his prior response. I quickly noted his dark ball cap over his longish dark brown straight hair. I assumed he just finished an online day of work. His plaid collared shirt hit the proportion lottery in the level of exposure it provided under his navy, rich sweater and blazer.
I never recollected more than that when recalling his physicality. I just loved that he could form…
