Fuzzy Relationships Between Dismissive and Fearful Avoidants.

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He is the Dismissive Avoidant. I am the Fearful Avoidant. The fuzziness comes from the massive blind spots that we cannot see in ourselves and are too intimidated to express clearly to the other, leaving the conjectures to continue reigniting our love for distancing.

All the while in a holding pattern of deep love continually being buried.

Below is the quick overview..

Dismissive Avoidant:

People with a dismissive avoidant attachment style typically exhibit a tendency to emotionally distance themselves from others, particularly in close relationships. These individuals often deny the importance of closeness and intimacy, maintain high self-reliance, and disregard or suppress emotional connections due to their defensive dismissal of attachment needs.

Fearful Avoidant:

The prototypical fearful avoidant individual would want closeness, but at the same time would be hesitant to let others get too close. Once others get too close, the fearful-avoidant individual instinctually pushes them, away fearing rejection, abandonment, or disappointment altogether.

I’ll never remember how we came together. Not in the way you would expect. Not in that way where certain key moments were some sort of…